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Chances are you are here because of a concern about religious harm, recovering from an authoritarian religion, or suffering from religious trauma.  You may have heard of Religious Trauma Syndrome (“RTS”), which is comparable to post-traumatic stress disorder, or PTSD but specifically induced by Toxic Religious Experiences.  RTS is a result of 1) toxic teachings and practices within the religion and 2) the trauma of leaving the religion. You can read more about it here.

Recovering from religious harm is multi-faceted and a relatively new field of study.  There is a range of harm done by religion, (despite the positive contributions of healthy religion) and various levels of suffering and coping, depending on individual differences.  While some people are able to walk away and most report feelings of relief and liberation, many people are deeply damaged and can carry scars for decades.  Now we have a name for this damaged condition and we need to take it seriously. (more…)

Feedback from January Retreat, 2020

General Comments I had a fantastic experience and am so thankful to finally identify what the hell I’ve been struggling with for 35 years.  I felt loved, cared for, and listened to.  I had a very positive, helpful, and healing experience. Very helpful and transformative program.  Really excellent and wonderful Read more…

Childhood Religious Indoctrination

A GRAPH Childhood Indoctrination color

Factors in Childhood Indoctrination in Fundamentalist Christianity

From this graphic, it should be clear that a child in a fundamentalist Christian environment faces a powerful array of factors influencing indoctrination. Many of these techniques are quite deliberate, such as keeping children at home for their schooling to control what they learn and don’t learn.  The primary goal of sincere Christian parents is to pass on their faith, not help their child develop critical thinking to make a fully informed decision about religion.  Christians do not present their offspring with literature on all the religions of the world and make field trips to temples, churches and mosques to help them decide.  Yet in their theology they claim that “accepting Jesus” is a personal choice of free will and only those who reject God’s free gift of salvation will go to hell. (more…)

Great Poems by Julia Bell

Julia is a reclaimer who lives in London.   She is contributing poems to an upcoming anthology called “Happy Heretics:  Tips for Recovering from Harmful Religion.”   She is writing a memoir about growing up in a strict evangelical family and also a novel.  She recently performed a number of poems, including the one below, and sent me this link.  She is a great writer and you can get her humor even more when you watch the video.  And be sure not to miss the poem about Lot’s wife at 6.22.

                                                               “The Visiting Speaker”

But Martha was cumbered about much serving, and came to him, and said, Lord, dost thou not care that my sister hath left me serve alone? Luke 10:40

Typical. The minute there’s a man about the house

she’s off, leaving me to get on (more…)

Reclaim your self

Ever really thought about what the doctrine of original sin does to a person’s sense of self-worth and capability?  I collected these Christian sayings and letters and made this video.  Have a look. (Click on title) Christian slogans and degraded self-worth